Two things that certainly influence the behavior of children are criticism and compliments. Examples given by adults also greatly influence children, but let's focus on this article in criticisms and praise to understand how they affect the development of the human being. All that is said with emotion for a child tends to generate in it a corresponding emotion. These emotions, in turn, create marks and are stored within the child, in a conscious or unconscious way. When something is said with a good feeling, it generates a good memory, but when what is said comes with a negative feeling, the child stores that impression. Emotions have a power to record within us sensations, thoughts, images and feelings that can accompany us for the rest of your life.


It is easy to perceive the strength with which emotions are recorded in our emotional field. A specific reminder of our childhood from a moment where we receive affection from our grandparents will bring us a good feeling. That emotion was recorded and to this day it causes well being; The memory will be delicious to be revived. In turn, the remembrance of a beating we take as a child, can bring very unpleasant sensations to be remembered. This is the power that emotions have to print on us good or bad feelings. From this principle, to create a healthy human being, full of good feelings, it would be ideal to generate many moments filled with good emotions. Cheers made with emphasis, with smiles and cuddles, are great to impregnate the child with good feelings. Through this love that the child receives, it will strengthen and learn to love herself by developing a great self-esteem. The criticisms and reproys leave negative emotional marks, for they have been loaded with negative feelings of the parents: anger, frustration, disappointment and fear many times. As we have seen, this will print various negative feelings in the child, who are adding to each other. The accumulation of these emotions will generate more complex problems, lowering the self-confidence and self-esteem of the child.

The problem is that in most families, the compliment is often rare. And when it is done, it is with little enthusiasm, without emotion, leaving few positive brands in the child. When it comes to criticism and reproys, these have been loaded with negative feelings. In the end, the general balance in the history of the child's life, there will be much more negative marks than positive. There is still the belief that the successes and good child behaviors should be normal, so it can not be seen right to praise them. So the child takes a good note and does not hear anything positive. But if you take a low note from the good ones, you are likely to hear criticisms or comments in which parents demonstrate to feel frustration and disappointment. And so we are bombarded from little ones by our unconscious parents, who in turn were also created in this way. We learn to value and pay more attention to negative things, generating more negative feelings, and ignoring positive things.

We then create a critical human being with himself, who has difficulty seeing his own qualities, but that he can see a thousand defects in himself. Increases self-collection, self depreciation and less value feelings. All this negativity will be reflected in relationships of relationships, difficulties of professional growth, insecurity on the way forward in life and numerous issues that are affected by our self-esteem. Fortunately we can clean these emotional marks that were impregnated from criticisms and reproys. It is in this way we will improve our self-esteem with the use of EFT. We access the impregnated memories of negative emotions and we use EFT to dissolve all these feelings. The result is the decrease of self-critical self collection, increase in inner peace and trust in itself. That way we can help us deeply. Is it possible to limit children without criticism and reprimands? Yes. Dar Limits is healthy, helps the child and develop and respect others. In fact, it is essential, children need limits and respect parents who know how to limit the right measure. This is a theme that would require more explanations. What is important now, is to point out the difference between what is to make a limit, and what is to criticize and rebuke. Critics and reprimands come carries of negative judgments and feelings of parents: anger, frustration, disappointment, sadness ... already the limit, this comes firmly and clear, without guilt or any other negative emotion. "Supernanny" signature program gives valuable classes on how to act that way. I learn a lot about human behavior when watching the program. For those who have children or who intend to have, it is important to be aware of not repeating the old way of criticizing and destroying the self-esteem of the children. And for those who have realized the mistakes and are blaming for it, forgive themselves. They certainly did the best they knew how to do. It's never late to change and start complimenting. Guilt brings only negative consequences and difficulties in dealing with children and put limits firmly. Alias, is excellent too to eliminate feelings and guilt. I have already helped many mothers to relate to children from the release of feelings of guilt.